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Wednesday, April 24, 2013

Erotica: It's A Woman Thing

I recently read a romance that was a gradual titillating buildup to sexual gratification--at last! It took a hundred or so pages to get there. And, when it finally got there--wow. I don't know if this is the way all erotic romance works, but I suppose, based on random sampling, it is, with a thousand variations, I imagine.

Here's the rub. Men cannot read like that. Not in public anyway. The constant tension on the sexual organs is too much for a man. Too much for this man, at least. I've read that e-readers are excellent for women. They read this stuff off and on during the day. No one knows what they're reading, and they are being sexually aroused all day long, I suppose. The female body can handle it. Men have a tendency, perhaps even a need, for immediate release. The woman needs a lot of foreplay. Erotic romance is perfect for this.

I look at the books in the erotica category and go to various websites: it's populated mostly by women, it seems. Women authors. A man can't very easily compose this stuff. Again, it's the tension on the sex organs. It can get downright painful after a few hours of thinking about the sex act and all it's variations, I mean painful to the sex organs. Apparently, women can write about this and think about it all day long, and it doesn't hurt their sex organs. Apparently it actually gives them great pleasure.

I've often read that female is the superior gender. In this case, it seems to be true.

17 comments:

L.G. Smith said...

LOL. That might be the most honest review of romance/erotica I've read from a man. :P

Michael Offutt, "Johnny on the Spot" said...

Gay men also like erotica. I write erotica for a gay website and get fan mail weekly.

Jon said...

This is so true. I'd read numerous romances written for women and it takes a couple hundred pages to get to the sex.
Male readers want the sex in the first chapter (and every other chapter....)

Emily R. King said...

Ha! Richard, this may be my favorite post I've ever read. You're awesome.

Julia Hones said...

Richard, every woman is different, and so is every man. I don't believe in those stereotypes. I have no idea why there are more women writing erotic fiction or romance. Men can also write erotic fiction.

Richard Hughes said...

L.G. Thank you. I try to be honest, even when it hurts.

Michael, yeah, I know men like erotica, too, and there's a lot of variety in the GLBT world.

Jon, you never cease to amaze me.

Emily, thank you for the compliment.

Julia, yes, you're right. But as a general rule, I think it works the way I said. I know, in the porn industry, women are always ready, and it takes the man a while to get there, which I think is the opposite of the way it really is. But, I suppose there are exceptions.

Tanya Reimer said...

Hahahahaha!!!! Oh the debates I feel arising based on this post!!

On the lighter side though, imagine the reading/editing rooms at those pubs. hahahaha. Sorry it was painful for you though, sure you were reading it right? LOL. I believe pleasure is the goal, then again, sometimes it is pain, so maybe that was spot on. Ah. Thanks for the chuckle.

And I love the other comments.

Richard Hughes said...

Hi, Tanya, no doubt pleasure is the goal. And those editing rooms...must be a super job to have.

Helene Titsch said...

What a great post! Now, where did I put my Kindle? LOL

Richard Hughes said...

Helene, thank you for giving me a laugh.

Donna K. Weaver said...

You bring a very fresh view on this genre. I don't read erotica or even erotic romance. Makes me feel voyeuristic. Not my thing.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

I couldn't agree with you more! I don't want to write it - I want to do it.

Richard Hughes said...

Donna, I don't normally read it either.

Alex, I couldn't agree with you more. I rather be doing it, too.

Misha Gericke said...

You know... you have an excellent point.

Although I must say I don't read erotica either. Just haven't really found one with a synopsis containing enough story to interest me.

I don't read to get turned on. I read to be entertained.

Melissa Bradley said...

Interesting, but a bit over simplistic as you would be shocked at the number of men writing erotica under a woman's name. I know, I write erotica. It's a genre like any other, not porn for simple pleasure. We erotica writers take our characters into the bedroom because sex is part of the human experience. it helps create who we are the same as any other experiences explored by writers.

Richard Hughes said...

Thank you, Melissa. I don't know if I'd be shocked. Maybe surprised. Erotica can certainly be valid literature. In fact, I was quite impressed by some of what I read.

Melissa Bradley said...

Thank you for the thoughtful response. I do encounter a lot of negativity for my genre.